Wednesday, 30 November 2011

The Four Emotions That can Lead to Life Change

(Excerpts from Seven strategies for Wealth and Happiness)

Emotions are the most Powerful forces inside us. Under the power of emotions, human beings can perform the most heroic (as well as barbaric) acts. To a great degree. Civilization itself can be defined as the intelligent channeling of human emotion. Emotions are fuel and the mind is the pilot, which together propel the ship of civilized progress.

Which emotions cause people to act? There are four basic ones; each, or a combination of several, can trigger the most incredible activity. The day that you allow these emotions to fuel your desire is the day you'll turn your life around.

1) Disgust
One does not usually equate the word "disgust" with positive action. And yet properly channeled, disgust can change a person's life. The person who feels disgusted has reached a point of no return. He or she is ready to throw down the gauntlet at life and say, "I'he had it!" That's what some people say after humiliating experiences . " I don't want to live like this anymore. I've had it with being embarrassed, and I've had it with lying".

Yes, productive feelings of disgust come when a person says, "Enough is enough"

The "guy" has finally had it with mediocrity. He's had it with those awful sick feelings of fear, pain and humiliation. He then decides he is not going to live like this anymore. " Look out! this could be the vay that turn a life around. Its' Powerful! There is nothing so life-changing as gut-wrenching disgust!

2) Decision
Most of us need to be pushed to the wall to make decisions, And once we reach this point, we have to deal with the conflicting emotions that come with making them. We have reached a fork in the road. Now this fork can be a two-prong, three-prong, or even a four-prong fork. No wonder that decision-making can create knots in stomachs, keep us awake in the middle of the night, or make us break out in a cold sweat.

Making life-changing decisions can be likened to internal civil war. Conflicting armies of emotions, each with its own arsenal of reasons, battle each other for supremacy of our minds. And our resulting decisions, whether bold or timid, well though out or impulsive, can either set the course of actions or blind it. I don't have much advice to give you about decision-making except this:

Whatever you do, don't camp at the fork in the road.decide. It's far better to make a wrong decisions than to not make one at all. Each of us must confront our emotional turmoil and sort out our feelings.

 3) Desire
How does one gain desire? I don't think I can answer this directly because there are many ways. But I do know two things about desire:

a. It comes from the inside not the outside.
b. It can be triggered by outside forces.

Almost anything can trigger desire. It's a matter of timing as much as preparation. It might be a song that tugs at the heart. It might be a memorable sermon. It might be a movie, a conversation with a friend, a confrontation with the enemy, or a bitter experience. Even a book or an article such as this one can trigger te inner mechanism that will make some people say. " I want it now!"

Therefore, while searching for your "hot button" of pure, raw desire, welcome into your life each positive experience. don't erect a wall to protect you from experiencing life. The same wall that keeps out our disappointment also keeps out the sunlight of enriching experiences. so let life touch you. The next touch could be the one that turns your life around.


4) Resolve
Resolve says, 'I Will". These two words are among the most potent in the English language. Benjamin Disraeli, the great British statesman, once said, "Nothing can resist a human will that will state even its existence on the extent of its purpose". In other words, when someone resolves to "do or die", nothing can stop him.

The mountain climber says, "I will climb the mountain. They've told me it's too high, it's too far, it's too steep, it's too rocky, it's too difficult. But it's my mountain. I will climb it. You''ll soon see me waving from the top or you'll never see me, because unless I reach the peak, I'm not coming back". Who can argue with such resolve?

When confronted with such iron-will determination, I can see Time, Fate and circumstance calling a hasty conference and deciding, " We might as well let him have his dream. He's said he's going to get there or die trying".

The best definition for "resolve"I've heard came from a high school girl in Foster City, California. She said, " I think resolve means promising yourself that you will never give up".

Think about it! How long should a baby tr to learn how to walk? How long would you give the average baby before you say, " That's it, you have had your chance"? You say that's a crazy question? Of course it is. Any mother would answer "My baby is going to keep trying until s/he learns to how to walk".  No wonder, everyone walks in this walks.

There is a vital lesson here. [Education should be on this principle. This is the biggest lesson for a teacher. This should be the view of a teacher towards their disciples]. If there is a question "How long am I going to work to make my dreams come true?", I suggest the answer "As long it takes". That's what these 4 emotions are all about.


Thought of the day

A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.
The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter: 
"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said:
"No, Dad. You hold my hand." 
"What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father. 

"There's a big difference," replied the little girl. 
"If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go." 

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours.

Monday, 28 November 2011

You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances,the seasons,or the wind but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of. - Jim Rohn


Rudder of a plane or a sail of a boat is a good example. You have to pull the strings of your own rudder to set the direction, rather than attempt to control the wind with witch craft

Thought of the day

Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are - Dell Carnegie

Sunday, 27 November 2011

Thought of the day

Success in Life is the result of good judgement. Good judgement is usually the result of experience. Experience is usually the result of  bad judgement - Anthony Robbins

Confused ;-).  The trick is to pick the experience of bad judgments from others life (your life is not so long to make all those mistakes yourself!). The art of distinguishing right from wrong is called 'Wisdom' and the art of picking the effects of bad judgments from others is called education.

Importance of 'Value' (Good example from parent...!)

I feel, parenting teaches the true art of management. After becoming a parent, one understands, Responsibility and accountability better. S/He understands short/long term goals, negotiation skills. S/he learn the art of managing a highly demanding youngster with innumerable energy, pursuing a goal of freedom and with crazy ideas. Off course one has to do this without politicking (So it is tough).

But what will be in the mind of a parent? To be general, S/He would dream about to giving a fenced-in mansion with live-in help and all of the conveniences of the day. S/He would imagine to provide the best of everything: clothes, toys, cars and a good education. They may not wish to withheld anything. To be specific, one would want their young ones to lead a life better than themselves. That is why better education, better house, better employment, better status etc is talked. better is wrt their own life. Even if one provide all of these, the questions remains, will the young one be successful? The answer is 'yes' if young one is capable. I feel this capability has many aspects like, Intelligence (Quotients like IQ/EQ/SocQ/SpQ), Wisdom, Adaptability (Darwinian principle of survival) and Attitude. 'Value system' sits under all these factors. This is the reason Indian customs tried to build this value system in to the culture. I realised the importance from a short american story. The story goes as follows

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STORY NUMBER ONE
Many years ago, Al Capone virtually owned Chicago. Capone wasn't famous for anything heroic. He was notorious for enmeshing the windy city in everything from bootlegged booze and prostitution to murder.

Capone had a lawyer nicknamed "Easy Eddie." He was his lawyer for a good reason. Eddie was very good! In fact, Eddie's skill at legal manoeuvring kept Big Al out of jail for a long time. To show his appreciation, Capone paid him very well. Not only was the money big, but Eddie got special dividends.For instance, he and his family occupied a fenced-in mansion with live-in help and all of the conveniences of the day. The estate was so large that it filled an entire Chicago City block.

Eddie lived the high life of the Chicago mob and gave little consideration to the atrocity that went on around him. Eddie did have one soft spot, however. He had a son that he loved dearly. Eddie saw to it that his young son had the best of everything: clothes, cars and a good education. Nothing was withheld. Price was no object. And, despite his involvement with organized crime, Eddie even tried to teach him right from wrong. Eddie wanted his son to be a better man than he was.

Yet, with all his wealth and influence, there were two things he couldn't give his son; that he couldn't pass on a good name and a good example. One day, Easy Eddie reached a difficult decision. Easy Eddie wanted to rectify wrongs he had done. He decided he would go to the authorities and tell the truth about Al "Scarface" Capone, clean up his tarnished name and offer his son some semblance of integrity. To do this, he would have to testify against The Mob, and he knew that the cost would be great. So, he testified. Within the year, Easy Eddie's life ended in a blaze of gunfire on a lonely Chicago Street. But in his eyes, he had given his son the greatest gift he had to offer, at the greatest price he would ever pay.

STORY NUMBER TWO
World War II produced many heroes. One such man was Lieutenant Commander Butch O'Hare. He was a fighter pilot assigned to the aircraft carrier Lexington in the South Pacific. One day his entire squadron was sent on a mission. After he was airborne, he looked at his fuel gauge and realized that someone had forgotten to top off his fuel tank. He would not have enough fuel to complete his mission and get back to his ship. His flight leader told him to return to the carrier. Reluctantly, he dropped out of formation and headed back to the fleet.

As he was returning to the mother ship he saw something that turned his blood cold. A squadron of Japanese aircraft was speeding their way toward the American fleet. The American fighters were gone on a sortie, and the fleet was all but defenseless. He couldn't reach his squadron and bring them back in time to save the fleet. Nor could he warn the fleet of the approaching danger. There was only one thing to do. He must somehow divert them from the fleet.

Laying aside all thoughts of personal safety, he dove into the formation of Japanese planes. Wing-mounted 50 calibre's blazed as he charged in, attacking one surprised enemy plane and then another. Butch wove in and out of the now broken formation and fired at as many planes as possible until all his ammunition was finally spent. Undaunted, he continued the assault. He dove at the planes, trying to clip a wing or tail in hopes of damaging as many enemy planes as possible and rendering them unfit to fly. Finally, the exasperated Japanese squadron took off in another direction. Deeply relieved, Butch O'Hare and his tattered fighter limped back to the carrier. Upon arrival he reported
in and related the event surrounding his return. The film from the gun-camera mounted on his plane told the tale. It showed the extent of Butch's daring attempt to protect his fleet. He had in fact destroyed five enemy aircraft. This took place on February 20, 1942, and for that action Butch became the Navy's first Ace of W. W. II, and the first Naval Aviator to win the Congressional Medal of Honour.

A year later Butch was killed in aerial combat at the age of 29. His home town would not allow the memory of this WW II hero to fade, and today, O'Hare Airport in Chicago is named in tribute to the courage of this great man. So the next time you find yourself at O'Hare International, give some thought to visiting Butch's memorial displaying his statue and his Medal of Honour. It's located between Terminals 1 and 2.

SO WHAT DO THESE TWO STORIES HAVE TO DO WITH EACH OTHER?
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Butch O'Hare was Easy Eddie's son.